Self Improvement :Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust?

By Oliver JR Cooper

If someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step.

Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do anything, which could stop this area of their life from changing, and this could be how they are when it comes to other areas of their life.

Faith

So, when someone is generally able to take action, it is likely to show that they believe that everything will work out. And if there are problems, they may believe that they will be able to handle whatever happens.

One is then not going to believe that the world is against them or that it is not safe for them to be here, for instance. It is through having trust in themselves and the world that they will be able to take action without knowing exactly what the outcome will be.

Freedom

Ultimately, being this will allow them to live life as a free human being; a human being who can listen to their own needs, feelings and inner calling, and then act upon these aspects. Through listening and then acting upon them, it will also strengthen the connection they have with themselves and life.

When they take action and it doesn't go as expected, they will be able to learn from what happens and this can stop them from getting too caught up in what takes place. At the same time, the outcome they experience might end up being more even more beneficial to them.

Inner Peace

Their connection to themselves and life will also make it easier for them to settle down and not to get too caught up in what may or may not happen to them. This will stop them from wasting a lot of their energy worrying about things and being anxious about the future.

And as their mind won't be hyperactive and caught up in the future, it will be a lot easier for them to live in the present moment. One is not going to see themselves as being separate from life, they will see themselves as being part of it.

One Area

Being this way is going to make it easier for them to connect to other people and to have fulfilling relationships. They will be able to open their heart to the right people, allowing these people to connect to them.

Their relationships with others are then going to be far more meaningful than if they were to only share their mind and body. When someone does experience life in this way, their life is going to be very different to someone who finds it more or less impossible to trust.

A Different World

If they were to think about how the person above experiences life, they could feel extremely uncomfortable. Instead of letting go and trusting in life, their modus operandi is going to be to do what they can to be in control.

Letting this control go and trusting life to give them what they need is likely to be seen as something that would be very dangerous. Just thinking about this could fill them with fear and make them want to regain control.

Inner Model

It is then going to be clear that they are not going to believe that the universe or existence is benign; it will be seen as something that is out to harm them at any opportunity. As a result of this, it is not going to be a surprise that they find it so hard to let go.

What this can then mean is that they will be used to worrying about what will or won't happen in the future, making it incredibly difficult for them to live in the present moment. Listening to their needs, feelings and inner calling is going to be a challenge; they will be more concerned with stopping 'bad' things from taking place.

Relationships

If they are in a relationship with someone, they are unlikely to feel as though it is safe enough for them to open their heart. This is then going to be a very surface level relationship.

Conversely, they could be single and just have people in their life who they share their mind and body with. Then again, they could keep just about everyone at bay and live a very lonely existence.

A New Start

One way of looking at this would be to say that they need to let go and to trust, doing so will allow them to feel alive and to live a life that is deeply fulfilling. This may work or this approach might be too much for them to handle.

The alternative would be to look into why they find it so hard to let go and to trust. What could become clear through doing this is that this is what feels safe and, until this changes, they won't be able to change their behaviour.

Going Deeper

What this comes down to is that they will have trouble with being vulnerable and with being (as opposed to doing), and this will relate to their feminine aspect. The need to be in control will relate to their masculine aspect.

To understand why this might be, it is going to be a good idea to look into what happened during the beginning of their life. This may have been a time when it wasn't safe for them to just be and their needs might rarely, if ever, have been met.

Violated

These experiences would have caused them to believe that they would only survive if they were in control, with letting go and trusting being seen as a threat to their very existence. This is likely to be the result of being abused and/or neglected.

And, by not getting their needs met, they are going to believe that the universe or existence is not going to support them either. If they were to put what they believe into words, they could say that their caregiver/s was not there for them, so why would anyone or anything else be there for them.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand seven hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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